Everybody knows about hardships of being a Black mother but what about Black fathers?
Not all the Black families are full due to many factors like mass incarceration, many Black kids have to grow up without a father and many Black women struggle to raise their kids the right way. But now, on the verge of the Father’s Day, it’s time to talk about Black fathers and Black fatherhood. As a part of its #ThisIsBlackFatherhood series theGrio has released an interview with a successful human resources professional, Floyd Sartin. We are eager to share its best moments with you.
TG: What does fatherhood mean to you?
Floyd Sartin: I believe that it’s sacred and an honor to join the ranks of fatherhood. I have learned a great deal in the last 4 years and I look forward to my son teaching me more. Being a father means that I am responsible for more than just myself. It means that I am responsible for ensuring his well being, physically, academically and emotionally. Being a father means putting aside self, and allowing a 4 year old to teach me new tricks. Being a father means that I am eternally bonded to another human through a connection that is stronger than I could ever explain.
— theGrio.com (@theGrio) June 8, 2017
TG: Has fatherhood changed you at all? If so, how?
FS: I think it has changed me in a tremendous way. I’m definitely more thoughtful and patient with people b/c that’s a big part of being a parent. I find myself choosing my words and overall attitude very carefully b/c I know that I’m ultimately molding another human being into being a greater version of me.
TG: What’s the biggest lessons you’ve learned since becoming a father and dad?
FS: To be patient with their development. Fathers tend to want their sons to be ready to take on the world by storm, immediately. And my son, Carter, is always up for that challenge. Unfortunately, that’s not always ideal or realistic. Most of us didn’t learn how to ride a bike or count to 100 on our first try. These are learned abilities that require practice, sacrifice and hard work. You have to be just as patient with developing their skills; keeping in mind that you required the same practice, sacrifice and hard work to accomplish your goals.
TG: Did your father have a big presence in your life? If so, what were some of the lessons that you learned from him, that you put into practice once you became a father?
— theGrio.com (@theGrio) June 6, 2017
FS: I was fortunate enough to have both my grandfather, who was a Pastor, and my Father, a retired military vet, provide me with two different approaches in life. My grandfather was a gentle giant that taught me about God, how to love your spouse/others, and ultimately how to be a great person. His genuine spirit encouraged me to be honest and always considerate of others’ feelings which is something that I’m instilling in Carter. My Father was more of a no-nonsense kind of guy. He taught me how to get the job done despite any obstacles that may arise.